I’ve always wanted to write this. But before I could, I needed to get my head straight. I mean, there is no point in vehemently going against something unless you can logically back it up right? And I am all about the logic. Well mostly.
Now I’m not going to seperate this into smoking and smoking up. I’m going to throw it all together into this hi-tech blender I call my mind and hope the resulting smoothie is somewhat pleasing. Here’s to hoping.
1) The Smell. Oh my God, its ghastly. It actually makes me wrinkle my nose if I’m sitting near it. Plus the heavy, gross smell on guys puts me off completely. It makes me reach for Body Shop spray and hope the springtime aromas can chase away the smell of ash and tobacco from the air. Obviously this is going to come as being exceedingly harsh on many levels. I don’t make a big deal out of it, to each his own, but it does stink. I guess my chemo-receptors are of a different planet? Solar system?
2) Depressor. Its true. It makes my mood go from Flying High to Swimming with the Fish. I don’t know why I’m “blessed” with this reaction but nevertheless it is there. The first three breaths affect me 10% in the negative way. Its the reason why I suddenly start falling quiet in conversations and why I get confused as to why I’m being such a bore. Are these swings normal?
3) Addiction. I hate it when people run out on me to go and smoke a joint in the corner just so that they can be in a better mood. I sound like such an insensitive brat right now. Jeez, I know I don’t have any idea what you’ve been through or why you do what you do but the fact that someone, ANYONE needs a rolled up piece of paper to get through the day is extremely distressing to me because I hate being dependent on anything. I know myself. If I try one thing, the next is a stone’s throw away. And I don’t really want to pick up any stone.
4) Social. I know many people who will get a kick out of it if I give it a go. But I also know a lot more people who will kick ME for giving it a go. I have a feeling my lungs are kind of part of that too. I don’t believe in letting society dictate your every move but I do care what I think of myself. Its about keeping myself in that “good” zone where I still trust myself and know who I am.
5) Profession. Being a med student it doesn’t seem honest to partake in anything that would be detrimental to my health. I already have Cancer, Diabetes, Heart Disease and Alzheimer’s lining up to attack my DNA, do I really want Emphysema and Lung Disease on that list as well? I would rather prolong any serious illness as far as possible. That is also why I like moving away from Smokers. I don’t WANT to look like a tight-ass, I just don’t want passive smoking to be on my list. Pregnancy and Smoking. It scares me even more. I do not want my child to pay for me running out to fulfill a smoke craving.
6) Family. My grandfather smoked. I should have made this number one. But here it is, this has affected me in more ways than some. No amount of anti-smoking media, classroom images or even stern implied lectures would affect me as his death did. I’ll write about it some day. I was nine. I miss him every day. He was in a job where smoking was the coolest thing to do. He didn’t even know how bad it was for him till he had his first heart attack. My dad was 14. If he had died… I don’t want to think about it. His health deteriorated. I know that. I saw it. I have images of him collapsing and me running to the other room and shutting everything out. The main cause? Smoking. I can never even inhale a bit of smoke without wondering if that is the reason I would never exhale again. Noone really thinks like that. Why should they? But seeing him in the ICU lying there, weaker than I’ve ever seen anyone my whole entire life taught me two things. A) Medicine Medicine Medicine. B) No. Smoking. Ever.
7) High. I’m a generally very happy person. I have no desire to get into a bit of a crazy state. Sure, it makes me sound super boring and totally lame to never want to try it. I know people must feel weird, and even awkward when I very blatantly make it obvious that I am not interested. I don’t want anyone to feel that way ever. I want everyone to be comfortable with me. See, I live by to each his own. I really, truly do.
I felt like I should write this. I thought it was necessary at the time. I don’t know if anyone out there is reading it or if anyone even understands. I worry about whether this is the right thing to do, completely shunning something. I worry if this will cause people to shun me in social situations. I worry about whether I am strong enough to keep my feet firmly planted. Maybe this here is to remind myself. But the thing is, I will never forget. I cannot change who I am. Not to fit in, not to partake in the secret gossip people may share regarding it. Yes I will never understand the glee you may feel when you light up. But hey. I still love you. And well, let me live through you.
I just want to live everyday, all day.